By Peggy Wakefield (McKrae's Mom)
Dear Parents & Loved Ones,
I am writing to you because I want to share great hope for your precious family. You may be facing the traumatic reality of homosexuality in a loved one's life, with your son or daughter, grandson or granddaughter. Whether it has been through a declaration, or a discovery, I have walked the road you are walking now. The fact that I am writing to you now is proof God already knew how this would all work out and that he would be able to use the experience, along with my story to reach others that are hurting.
There have been many times in my life that have brought me great pain, however there are two times that stand out above all others (because of pain my children suffered). I felt totally alone, isolated, full of failure, grief and despair. In 1989, my son confessed to me that he was involved in the homosexual lifestyle; in 2000, my daughter and son-in-law lost their three-month-old baby girl Natalie, to SIDS (sudden infant death syndrome).
It was 1991; I was driving, weeping and crying out to God for my son, when a song came on the radio. It was as though the volume went up and the words "a miracle is about to happen" came through the speakers. The fact that I heard what was on the radio, in such a state of grief, is more proof God meant for me to hear it. It was that very night my son told me he had accepted Christ into his heart. He knew it was real and he believed God would heal his life.
He told me later (after he married his beautiful wife) that Christ was leading him to a ministry that would lead others out of the lifestyle. We discussed the consequences of going public with such a ministry. I asked him why he felt like this was necessary. His answer to me was, "mother if I could help give back a son or a daughter to a parent, would it not be worth it?"
Truth Ministry has been born out of the answer to that question. I support Truth Ministry both prayerfully and financially. Great things are happening as I write. The men's ministry is growing as men are finding someone to talk to, answers to their many questions, and healing. There is now a women's ministry led by, carol Bachtel, who is supported by her church and her husband and family. The group I am most excited about is the family & loved one's ministry. When I was going through this nightmare, I had no one I could trust to talk to, or that I felt would understand or relate. This ministry is led by a parent, Millie Pitts, whose son was also in the lifestyle and is now married with a son, and travels regularly preaching the good news that he has experienced in his new life in Christ.
The Truth Ministry board is made up of committed church leaders, Christian counselors, and Christian business professionals. This ministry is a member ministry of exodus international. Exodus is a worldwide coalition, made up of ministries like Truth, that proclaim "freedom from homosexuality through Jesus Christ", which Dr. James Dobson and focus on the family supports.
My son tells his groups, "my mother never accepted my homosexuality. She never stopped telling me it was wrong." I did not have anywhere to go to find out what was going on for answers, support or anything. I know that I responded hysterically. I wish I would could say that what I did or said was instrumental in my son's conversion. I guess the one thing I can say that I did, looking back, was I did not get in the way by showing acceptance. My son says that would have confused and frustrated him more. He says that he did not want these thoughts and feelings/desires. He did not have anyone else to talk to either. McKrae answered God's call on his life to be the person that he never had while he was going through this.
There is so much more. McKrae, Carol, Millie, and all of their support members eagerly desire to help you in your situation. There is much hope! God heard my prayers just as he hears yours now. Do not grow weary! I challenge you as one who has been where you are now, to not remain silent and alone, but to reach out and allow them to help you and possibly your loved one in your time of need.
It may be that you are in a position to help my son, with Truth Ministry in their needs. Truth does have many expenses as they spend a great deal of time and resources in attempting to accomplish this God size goal. Would you consider giving to Truth, and helping them retaining aid from your church or other connections you may have. I am sure that you can imagine that it is difficult getting funding for a ministry that is going against the tide of popular culture.
Please prayerfully consider how you could help Truth Ministry, and how they could help you.
And no matter what, never give up. You may have to distance yourself for a time, but keep praying for that miracle.
With sincerest hope,
Peggy Wakefield |
